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The Importance Of Mentoring

Saturday, August 24th, 2013

“Experience Productive Benefits, Recurring Value And Increasing Profits… Through One On One Personalised Mentoring Aimed At Delivering Important Outcomes.”

The great family therapist Virginia Satir, once said to the co-creator of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Richard Bandler, “You know, Richard, most people think the will to survive is the strongest instinct in human beings, but it isn’t. The strongest instinct is to keep things familiar” (Source: Make Your Life Great.)

Evolutionary speaking, our brain has a design principle that makes extraordinary change or success difficult for most people. Our brain is designed to act on what it observes, rather than what it doesn’t observe. It acts on reoccurring thoughts rather than new possibilities.

The brain’s design preference for acting on what is already familiar to it, is the single most important factor in why you often can’t effectively solve the challenges you’re facing.

Your reoccurring reality is the result of what your brain notices. But the solutions you need to the challenges you face are always found outside what your brain consistently notices.

It’s why the world’s greatest teams and most successful individuals in any given context engage coaches and mentors. They know that success is found outside what their brain habitually notices… Outside their “familiars”.

The word familiar comes from the 14th C Old French word famelier meaning “intimate, very friendly, on a family footing,” and from the Latin word familiaris which means “domestic, of a household” and “familiar, intimate, and friendly”.

Solutions are often located outside your particular frame of reference… ‘Outside’ what is already familiar to you. They’re found in information and strategies that your brain normally doesn’t notice and this is where mentors become extremely valuable to the outcomes you seek.

Extraordinary success is not something that requires seemingly super human qualities. Nor is it something that is beyond the reach of anyone who wants to tap into their true potential. Simply stated, extraordinary success is achieved through a process of turning creative ideas into sustained behaviours.

Most people generate ideas and dreams but what’s often missing is sustained determination and an ability to remain focused on attending to the behaviours and actions necessary for the realisation of those dreams.

Unquestionably, the common benefits enjoyed by all mentoring clients are that they feel safe to explore territory, strategies, opportunities and information outside their existing familiars.

This leads to exponential increases in self confidence, self ability, self efficacy, self awareness and personal control. In turn, this saves you time, money and costly mistakes.

The ultimate purpose of mentorship is to develop your (as yet) unrealised potential so that life is experienced as a daring adventure of expansion and sustainable achievement. It helps get your results off “pause” and back on “fast forward”.

It’s the Consumption Code that’s most familiar in terms of money results and it’s what keeps dragging you back into your familiars. Freedom, especially in the form of financial freedom, is only possible from productive Enterprise Code change.

Love for you to share your thoughts on this.

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Paul Counsel

P.S. If you’d like to know more about The Consumption Code and The Enterprise Code, you can watch these videos here.

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The Psychology of Wealth

Saturday, September 24th, 2011

The Psychology of Wealth: Most of what we do each day is driven by habits deeply ingrained within the mind of our personal psychology. With this secret of mind, the trait that really sets extraordinary achievers apart from those who fail to realise even a fraction of their true potential, is their ability to change their old habits of thinking and doing.

Through powerful attention grabber, society’s central conditioning directs your attention onto immediate gratification and away from the consequences of immediate gratification. It wants you to consume your future without you even realising you’re doing it until it is too late! When you become conditioned to wanting everything now, you’ll spend almost anything to achieve it. Generally speaking, this model, while it serves the system well, does not serve you as it nearly always leaves you just that little bit more unfulfilled as each year passes. The end result is that, more and more, you’ll seek to fill yourself with what you think will fill the emptiness you feel, but it never works, and the endless cycles of immediate consumption continue.

Because most people are unwilling to break this cycle, the growing void remains in place. Unless you invest enough attention into positive change for long enough so that positive change becomes a reality, change for the better will not happen. Although positive change is available to anyone who genuinely wants it, not everyone is willing to reach out and grab the opportunity.

It’s important to realise that reactions and resistance to change are actually quite normal processes; in fact, I encourage such feelings for the following reason. If the energy that’s available for reaction and resistance can be redirected through processes that reduce anxiety and fear, that energy now becomes available for use towards positive outcomes. Ultimately, the stronger the feelings; the more potential energy there is to be directed towards sustainable change.

And this is where the role of mentors becomes incredibly valuable. By strategising, teaching, sharing and listening, mentors act as agents of change who support, encourage and direct the creative focus of individuals, businesses and/or organisations in ways that tap into the unrealised potential and extraordinary success that’s available to them.

In Future Shock (1970), Alvin Toffler wrote, “The illiterate of the 21st Century will not be those who cannot read and write. They will be those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” Most people can learn and relearn but many come unstuck when it comes to unlearning ineffective habits of thinking and doing.

In Order Out of Chaos, Man’s New Dialogue with Nature (1984), Toffler advanced an observation with regards to significant shifts. He said they occur for people when one or more of the basic elements of their internal make up are significantly altered. And this is where the real value of mentors is to be found. It’s in their ability to help create perceptual shifts so that the greatest amount of unlearning and relearning can take place.

Mentors help change the way individuals, businesses or organisations think, perceive, feel and act. It’s a change process that turns internal resources away from negative resistance and directs them towards positive competencies that ultimately bring about extraordinary improvements in capacities and results.

Mentors create fertile and trusting environments of confidentiality and personalised accountability so that more of an individual’s innate potential can be achieved. It’s about engaging in an ongoing process that nurtures potential. No matter how successful you may already be, you will (or already have) arrive at limits. If you want to achieve experiences beyond the limits of your current capacities, the supportive environment of mentors helps you take the necessary steps towards the levels of success you desire but cannot achieve by working in isolation.

In Tao: Daily Meditations (1992), Deng Ming-Dao describes the value of such relationships noting, “That is why we need a parent for a parent, a master for a master, and leaders for leaders. This prevents errors of power. In the past, even kings had wise advisers. Every person who would be a leader should have such assistance.”

Unless attention is brought to focus on habitual patterns of thought and behaviour, you’ll keep returning to the tired voids of sameness and old familiars. Mentoring opens up a whole new world of possibilities so that extraordinary outcomes are achieved by those determined enough to achieve them.

Helen Keller said that security is mostly a superstition. “It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or it is nothing.” The ultimate purpose of mentoring is to develop unrealized potential so that life is experienced as a daring adventure of expansion and sustainable achievement.

Over the years, I’ve studied both what prevents change and what accelerates change. While understanding both aspects is necessary for effective change, what really excites me is being able to create the space where individuals, businesses and organisations become active initiators of the design processes for sustainable expansion. It’s about becoming a map maker instead of a map reader.

Your future outcomes, and the results you’ll keep achieving, are literally determined by whether or not you have the desire to answer a call for change. My invitation is to believe in yourself enough to invest in a journey of expansion, and to trust in yourself enough to realise more of your true potential.

If you’re ready to begin experiencing more of the potential that awaits you, if you’re ready to live life more fully, if you’re excited about the possibilities of sustainable improvement and extraordinary results, and if you’re encouraged by thoughts that when you improve your own world, you automatically improve the world for others, then I encourage you to begin an initial discussion by making contact with Barry at The Psychology of Wealth

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