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The Importance Of Mentoring

Saturday, August 24th, 2013

“Experience Productive Benefits, Recurring Value And Increasing Profits… Through One On One Personalised Mentoring Aimed At Delivering Important Outcomes.”

The great family therapist Virginia Satir, once said to the co-creator of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Richard Bandler, “You know, Richard, most people think the will to survive is the strongest instinct in human beings, but it isn’t. The strongest instinct is to keep things familiar” (Source: Make Your Life Great.)

Evolutionary speaking, our brain has a design principle that makes extraordinary change or success difficult for most people. Our brain is designed to act on what it observes, rather than what it doesn’t observe. It acts on reoccurring thoughts rather than new possibilities.

The brain’s design preference for acting on what is already familiar to it, is the single most important factor in why you often can’t effectively solve the challenges you’re facing.

Your reoccurring reality is the result of what your brain notices. But the solutions you need to the challenges you face are always found outside what your brain consistently notices.

It’s why the world’s greatest teams and most successful individuals in any given context engage coaches and mentors. They know that success is found outside what their brain habitually notices… Outside their “familiars”.

The word familiar comes from the 14th C Old French word famelier meaning “intimate, very friendly, on a family footing,” and from the Latin word familiaris which means “domestic, of a household” and “familiar, intimate, and friendly”.

Solutions are often located outside your particular frame of reference… ‘Outside’ what is already familiar to you. They’re found in information and strategies that your brain normally doesn’t notice and this is where mentors become extremely valuable to the outcomes you seek.

Extraordinary success is not something that requires seemingly super human qualities. Nor is it something that is beyond the reach of anyone who wants to tap into their true potential. Simply stated, extraordinary success is achieved through a process of turning creative ideas into sustained behaviours.

Most people generate ideas and dreams but what’s often missing is sustained determination and an ability to remain focused on attending to the behaviours and actions necessary for the realisation of those dreams.

Unquestionably, the common benefits enjoyed by all mentoring clients are that they feel safe to explore territory, strategies, opportunities and information outside their existing familiars.

This leads to exponential increases in self confidence, self ability, self efficacy, self awareness and personal control. In turn, this saves you time, money and costly mistakes.

The ultimate purpose of mentorship is to develop your (as yet) unrealised potential so that life is experienced as a daring adventure of expansion and sustainable achievement. It helps get your results off “pause” and back on “fast forward”.

It’s the Consumption Code that’s most familiar in terms of money results and it’s what keeps dragging you back into your familiars. Freedom, especially in the form of financial freedom, is only possible from productive Enterprise Code change.

Love for you to share your thoughts on this.

Connect soon but please leave your comments below.

Paul Counsel

P.S. If you’d like to know more about The Consumption Code and The Enterprise Code, you can watch these videos here.

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The Psychology of Wealth

Tuesday, November 1st, 2011

During a presentation on The Psychology of Wealth a few days ago I started talking about different money value systems. One system embraces the values of achievement , while the other embraces the values of enculturation.

The question I posed to the group prior to this little clip was, “Is it possible to gain the benefits offered by an achievement value system if you’re actually leading from a traditional enculturated value system?”

Essentially, this section of the talk posed the thought that in order to gain the benefits of achievement, you need spare energy available for the processes of achievement. You also need to lead from the values of achievement, rather than the values of conventional wisdom and enculturation. If your values remain aligned with the more traditional value system, and you don’t have spare energy available for achievement, then you have to begin wondering whether or not you can gain the freedoms you say are important to you if you continue to hold onto the values of your version of The Psychology of Wealth.

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The Money Mastery Process

Friday, October 21st, 2011

In The Money Mastery Process we talk about two requirements. The first is a requirement for a shift in thinking systems from a traditional authority based ‘right way’ truth system to a boundary testing, multiplicity, ‘achievement’ oriented success system.

The other requirement is a reassignment of values, especially when it comes to finances and the way that money works within people’s psyche.

Individual results follow the line of individual thinking however, for a great number of people, and/or organisations, most thinking is habitual and is directed towards satisfying immediate needs. Research by psychologist Clare Graves identified that in terms of human development, seven uniquely different thinking systems, or coping mechanisms, have developed over time.

Graves maintained that these thinking systems are driven by the coping mechanisms needed to satisfy the challenges of existence within particular life conditions. Underpinning these coping mechanisms are value systems and unless the value system a person is accessing changes, then the results for that individual are unlikely to change.

This is especially the case when it comes to money mastery and financial freedom. Of the several that exist, the Money Mastery Process recognises two dominant money value systems.

One system developed along traditional lines of authority and predictability. In this system, ideas and beliefs around money are crafted, shaped and conditioned towards labour intense, authority based master/servant relationships, obedience, predictability and sacrifice.

This system promotes thinking that develops in terms of affordability, costs and wages. It’s a value system that’s full of rules, processes, right way thinking, truth and hierarchical leadership. It’s a value system that’s been around for a long time and is very entrenched.

Another system developed along the lines of entrepreneurialism and boundary testing. In this system, ideas and beliefs around money are directed towards magnification, achievement, independence, success and profits. This system is full of self efficacy, self leadership, visions and values which lead to a yes bias as opposed to a no bias. Compared to the previous system, this value system is relatively new and is accessed by fewer people.

In one value system, people are trapped in life cycles of earning, spending, stress and debt. In another, people enjoy the benefits of independence combined with economic and personal freedom.

If you’re operating from a particular truth value system, and if what you want is not attainable through that system, then your value drivers must change to ones that allow you to access what you say is important to you. If what you value does not change, then progress is unlikely to materialise and you’ll prevent yourself from accessing the success and achievement you want.

It’s this inability to change what they value that brings would be achievement oriented people unstuck.

The same level of awareness, thinking or consciousness that got you where you are today will not get you to where you want to be in the future. If you think, believe, act and lead from the dominant value system operating within society, you are more likely to experience financial underachievement rather than achievement.

Values can be defined as ideas, beliefs and the relative worth of something to you. Values define what is important to you. They’re the fuel behind what you will do and won’t do in any given context. They’re the driving force behind the limits of time and energy you expend in any given area of life.

Psychologists say that our values start forming after consciousness begins to develop around six years of age and are reasonably set by eight years of age. The social and cultural environment we’re raised within has the greatest impact on the values that imprint in us.

There are lots of strategies for creating money mastery which leads to economic and personal freedom, especially in the expert’s domain. However, most people don’t have the necessary values and psychology to support the achievement practices necessary for their attainment.

The more traditional money value system is constantly on the lookout for evidence to support its collective agreements and its particular ‘right way thinking’, ‘truth’ coping mechanism. If you use this thinking system, and if it remains in place, you’ll continue to gather evidence on why things are like they are. Chances are that this system will mandate you having to accept your lot in life.

The more achievement oriented value system is multiplistic in nature and is always looking for ways to burst through limitations. It looks for breakthrough ideas and is keen to learn new skills. It loves the scientific model of inquiry and boundary testing. It loves discovery and breaking away from the established norms of the day. It’s only limits are its own imagination and its own belief in itself.

So much of what lies at the core of individual and collective challenge are the conditioned values that underpin the thinking system being accessed.

There’s never a lack of ways to achieve extraordinary success, and there’s never a lack of value drivers. The greatest barriers people face to the achievement of their dreams come as a result of wanting the benefits of one value system, the achievement paradigm, while unconsciously leading from the value drivers of the ‘right way’, ‘truth’, value system. 

Values exist on a hierarchy and you’ll be most organised around your top four or five values and least organised around values lower on your hierarchy.

If money, achievement, economic freedom and money mastery are not in your top five values, it’ll be almost impossible for you to experience increased profitability because subconsciously, you’ll be suffering from values dissonance through value misalignment, This will have you working against your core drivers.

Values must be identified before goals are set. If you do it the other way around, you run the risk of establishing goals that conflict with your values. In terms of flow, when you act in accordance with your values, you experience centeredness, emotional harmony, a sense of contentment and feelings of timelessness.

When you act out of alignment with your values, you’ll experience resistance along with a series of destabilising emotions such as procrastination, anxiety, frustration, and emotional disharmony.

The challenge most people have around their values is that they exist in their subconscious mind which results in little conscious awareness of them.

In the achievement oriented space; there’s never a lack of ways to achieve extraordinary success, and there’s never a lack of value drivers appropriate for that achievement. As mentioned earlier, the greatest barriers you’ll face to the attainment of your dreams come from values dissonance which results from wanting the benefits of one value system while unconsciously leading from the value drivers of a different system.

Mark Twain once said that, “It isn’t what you know that gets you into trouble; it’s what you know that isn’t so.” From my vantage point, it’s vitally important to understand the powerful message of values and beliefs as primary drivers.

Perhaps a more powerful message is contained within the notion of authenticity. When, for whatever reason, a person loses their authenticity compass, “what you know that isn’t so” starts running one’s life. The Money Mastery Process helps you develop the authentic value drivers necessary for the success and achievement you may be seeking.

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